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"La Gestion des Enfants"

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Child management

Introduction: Understanding the Issues

Lors de mes stages, je pose souvent cette question : "Qui ici serait prêt à tout pour protéger ses enfants ?". Sans hésitation, toutes les mains se lèvent. Ce réflexe révèle notre instinct familial, notre besoin primal de protéger nos enfants, mais il réveille aussi des peurs profondes chez les parents.

In times of crisis or chaos, these concerns become overwhelming: safety, emotional stability, well-being. We want the best for them, but in the face of uncertainty, guilt sets in, as if the destabilizing environment were our responsibility. We feel torn between providing them with a protective cocoon and dealing with the logistical and emotional challenges they present in these times.

Children, so sensitive to stress, often express their anxiety through their behavior. Without attention to their psychological comfort, they risk disorders such as anxiety, depression, or aggressive behavior. Their ability to build healthy relationships or manage their emotions could also suffer. Under these conditions, their overall development—emotional, social, and cognitive—can be affected.

Alors, que faire ? Pour les protéger et les soutenir, il est crucial de bâtir avec eux, dès aujourd’hui, un lien de confiance. Apprenez-leur à affronter les petites épreuves, sans briser leur innocence ni leur sensibilité. Ce travail est essentiel pour qu’ils deviennent résilients et puissent grandir, même au milieu des tempêtes.

Préparer nos enfants à affronter les difficultés passe d'abord par une relation de confiance solide. S’ils savent qu’ils peuvent compter sur nous pour leur sécurité et des réponses claires, ils se sentiront plus rassurés. Inclure les enfants dans des activités simples, comme des randonnées ou des camps, permet de développer leur résilience et leur autonomie, tout en apprenant de façon ludique qu’il existe des moyens de gérer le stress et de se protéger.

However, their presence can also become a source of tension, particularly in preparation or crisis situations, due to the natural interruptions linked to their behavior. If we don't manage this distraction, it can harm our serenity and our ability to plan effectively.

Fear, meanwhile, is another challenge to overcome. When a child expresses a fear, I start by validating what they feel: "It's normal to be afraid sometimes." This legitimizes their emotions and shows them that they have the right to feel them. Then, I encourage them to describe their fear to make it less vague. Together, we compare this fear to reality, showing them that it's often exaggerated: "What could really happen?" This helps lessen its intensity and gives them a reassuring perspective.

I then suggest concrete ways to manage his fears, such as deep breathing or thinking of a comforting place. I also share my own experiences with fear, so he understands that it's natural and possible to overcome. Finally, I encourage him to take small steps: every victory, however small, builds his confidence.

If necessary, I use tools like drawing to help externalize fear. This helped my daughter a lot after a nighttime evacuation due to a flood, where I carried her on my shoulders in the water. Without rapid resolution, these anxieties risk becoming permanently imprinted, with repercussions such as phobias or post-traumatic stress disorder. Our role is to show them that they can overcome these challenges and regain their balance, little by little. Human memory is divided into three main layers, each with its own role and connection to time:

1. Warm memory: that of immediate, vivid, and often emotionally charged memories. It allows us to react quickly, but it is transient, lasting only a few seconds or minutes.

2.   La mémoire tiède : liée aux souvenirs à court terme, stockés pour quelques heures ou jours. Si elle n’est pas renforcée, cette mémoire s’efface progressivement, mais elle joue un rôle clé dans la consolidation des informations.

3. Cold memory: long-term memories, sometimes lasting a lifetime. This deeply ingrained information concerns significant events or lasting knowledge.

With children, it's crucial to manage these memory issues during difficult times. By calmly explaining situations to them, without sharing our own anxieties, we offer them a reassuring environment. Incorporating games or educational activities also helps transform these challenges into positive experiences.

After a crisis, it's essential to review what happened with them: show them that they overcame the situation, congratulate them on their courage and strength. Saying things like, "I'm proud of you; you were very brave," teaches them that fear can be overcome and is not a limitation.

This method, called corrective learning, helps their brains reprogram fear as a surmountable challenge. They emerge more confident, with a positive self-image and increased resilience to future challenges. Crisis situations, whether due to natural disasters, conflicts, or sudden changes, cause a sudden break with normalcy. For children, these events can generate intense emotional stress, often manifesting through physical and psychological symptoms. This phenomenon, known as somatization, reflects their inability to fully verbalize their emotions. Some of the most common manifestations include:

• Physical pain: Headaches, digestive problems, and muscle pain are common. These symptoms reflect latent stress that children are unable to express in any other way.
• Emotional disturbances: These include anxiety, regressive behaviors (such as bedwetting), or sudden outbursts of anger. These reactions are an attempt to cope with an environment that has become unpredictable.
• Reduced immune defenses: Chronic stress weakens the immune system, making children more vulnerable to illness.

Somatization often occurs in a context where children lack the words or means to express their emotions. It is amplified by a lack of guidance or exposure to constant stress. Recognizing these signs is essential for effective intervention and preventing lasting impacts on their development.

Developmental Phases and Their Impact on Learning

Les premières années : Observation et apprentissage par imitation

Les premières années de la vie d’un enfant sont cruciales pour son développement cognitif, émotionnel et social. Avant l’âge de trois ans, l’enfant traverse une phase d’observation et d’imitation. À cet âge, il absorbe son environnement sans être capable de former des souvenirs conscients. L’apprentissage repose principalement sur des interactions sensorielles et émotionnelles. L’enfant perçoit les tons de voix, les expressions faciales et les gestes des adultes qui l’entourent. Ces premiers repères constituent les fondations des relations sociales et des comportements futurs.

De 5 à 9 ans : L’éveil de la mémoire et de l’imitation

Between the ages of five and nine, a key stage emerges, marked by significant development in memory and imitation skills. Children acquire the ability to remember and reproduce observed gestures, behaviors, and habits, which become benchmarks for their behavioral repertoire. This period is an ideal time to instill safe and social behaviors. Children begin to understand rules, recognize dangers, and grasp the importance of empathy. The actions and values transmitted at this age leave a lasting imprint that will guide their future development.

Behavioral reflexes: a solid foundation for the future

During this phase, the child develops "behavioral reflexes," that is, almost automatic responses that will lay the foundation for their behavior in adolescence and adulthood. This process relies on repetition and positive reinforcement, permanently anchoring these habits in their daily lives. These reflexes contribute to their sense of inner security and facilitate their social integration.

Le rôle crucial de la répétition et du renforcement positif

Between the ages of five and nine, the repetition of gestures and behaviors plays a fundamental role in learning. Parents and educators, by regularly supervising their children, encourage the development of protective and caring reflexes. This phase is also conducive to strengthening the bonds of trust between the child and those around them, an essential element in ensuring their well-being and emotional security.

1. Before the Crisis Situation: Prepare Gently

Why preparing children is crucial

Les enfants, par leur sensibilité naturelle, absorbent les tensions de leur environnement. Contrairement aux adultes, leur capacité à gérer ces pressions reste limitée. Il incombe donc aux parents et aux éducateurs de leur offrir des repères émotionnels solides et des stratégies adaptées pour :

1. Managing Emotions in the Face of the Unknown: Uncertainty amplifies fear and anxiety in children. Teaching them to identify and verbalize their emotions allows them to better manage them. For example, after a stressful event, asking the child, "How are you feeling? Can you draw what you're feeling?" helps them put their feelings into words or images.
2. Maintain their emotional balance: Establishing routines (even simple ones, like a bedtime ritual) helps recreate a secure environment. These repetitive moments, in an unstable environment, provide tangible and reassuring reference points.
3. Building resilience: Engaging in hands-on activities like packing an adventure bag (with essential, familiar items) builds a sense of control and competence. For example, teaching them how to use a flashlight or identify edible plants in a playful setting can turn a source of worry into a manageable challenge.

Preparing children to become independent and confident

Through play, caring interactions, and positive communication, children prepare to become independent and confident individuals. Each activity is an opportunity to strengthen their ability to face challenges while providing them with a safe and supportive environment in which to grow.

Strategies to Strengthen Children's Resilience

1. Games and Fun, Artistic and Sports Activities
2. Compassionate Verbal Communication
3. Practical Preparation: Reflexes and Skills

1. Games and recreational, artistic and sporting activities

Preparing children to cope with crisis situations begins long before they arise. This preparation must be gentle and gradual to avoid generating anxiety, while still instilling useful reflexes. Play is a great way to impart these skills in a fun and engaging way. Through play, children not only learn how to react, but also develop their self-confidence and independence.

Les jeux pratiques et immersifs permettent de simuler des situations réalistes tout en restant dans un cadre sécurisant. Ces activités créent une mémoire musculaire et émotionnelle qui sera précieuse en cas d’urgence. En les intégrant régulièrement à la routine familiale, ces exercices deviennent des habitudes naturelles, transformant des moments potentiellement stressants en défis stimulants pour les enfants.

Exemples de jeux et d’activité ludiques

• Jeu de vitesse à entrer dans la voiture

• Activité : Ce jeu consiste à simuler une situation d'urgence où les enfants doivent réagir rapidement pour monter dans la voiture. Par exemple, les parents peuvent donner un signal (comme un coup de sifflet ou un mot-clé) et encourager les enfants à s'installer rapidement en sécurité à leur place.
• Pourquoi ? Ce jeu apprend aux enfants à agir rapidement en cas de besoin, notamment les délais en situation critique. Cela peut être particulièrement utile lors d'une évacuation ou dans une zone où il est important de limiter le temps passé à découvert. En répétant cet exercice de manière ludique, les enfants apprennent à réagir sans panique, ce qui peut faire une grande différence dans des moments décisifs.

• Quick directions game

• Activité : Les parents peuvent organiser un jeu où ils donnent des consignes rapides que les enfants doivent suivre immédiatement. Par exemple : « Va te mettre sous la table ! », « Mets-toi derrière le canapé ! », ou « Rassemble-toi près de la porte ! ». Pour rendre le jeu plus stimulant, les parents peuvent introduire un chronomètre ou ajouter des éléments comme ramasser un objet avant d'agir.
• Why? This game helps children develop their ability to listen attentively, react without hesitation, and adapt quickly to important instructions. It builds their confidence in unexpected situations while establishing a habit of vigilance. By practicing these exercises in a playful setting, children acquire essential reflexes in a real-life emergency situation.

• Game of silence

• Activity: Train children to be calm and quiet to focus and listen to surrounding sounds. This game can also become a moment of meditation.
• Pourquoi ? Ce jeu aide les enfants à développer leur concentration et leur capacité d'écoute. Il favorise également un état de calme intérieur qui peut être bénéfique dans des situations stressantes ou nécessitant de la discrétion.

• Silent hide and seek

• Activity: This activity involves hiding quickly while remaining still and quiet. Parents can make this game more challenging by adding elements like finding a safe hiding place or avoiding detection.
• Why? When stealth is needed (such as avoiding danger or staying out of sight), this game prepares children to control their movement and breathing. It also strengthens their ability to concentrate. By making the exercise fun, children integrate it as a natural skill, which they can use without hesitation if necessary.

• Cherche et trouve dans la nature

• Activity: Teach children to identify edible plants or water sources by playing "Who can find it faster?"
• Why? This activity introduces children to the basics of wilderness survival while stimulating their observation, curiosity, and critical thinking.

• Simulation of loss in a store

• Activity: Being separated from parents in a public place can be a frightening situation for a child. To cope, it's important to conduct tracking and regrouping exercises. For example, parents can teach their children to return to the last place they were together and use visual cues, such as a specific aisle or marker, to locate each other.
• Pourquoi ? Une telle expérience peut aider les enfants à gérer leur panique en leur offrant des solutions simples et rassurantes. Ces exercices leur apprennent à garder leur calme sous pression et à retrouver rapidement leurs proches. Ils développent ainsi des réflexes clairs et concrets pour des situations stressantes.

• Familiarisation aux sons de détonation

• Activité : Sous contrôle et en toute sécurité, habituez les enfants à entendre des bruits soudains comme des pétards pour leur éviter de paniquer en cas de bruit étonnant.
• Why? This activity reduces fear of unexpected noises and helps children stay calm in environments where sudden noises may occur, such as during festivities or unforeseen situations.

• Quick grip and evacuation

• Activity: Offer games that encourage children to grab on quickly when needed, such as during a rapid evacuation simulation.
• Why? This game strengthens the physical and emotional connection between parents and children, while teaching them how to react instantly to an emergency signal.

• Reunification in the event of separation

• Activité : Découvrez aux enfants que, lorsqu'ils sont perdus, ils doivent retourner au dernier endroit où ils étaient ensemble. En cas d'urgence, ils peuvent utiliser un sifflet d'arbitre (plus puissant que les sifflets de secours) ou, la nuit, pointer un laser vert vers le ciel jusqu'à ce qu'ils soient retrouvés.
• Why? This instruction provides children with clear guidelines and practical tools for managing a separation situation. It helps them stay calm and maximize their chances of being reunited with their loved ones quickly.

• Speed in passing through doors

• Activity: Simulate a situation where they need to go through doors quickly. Hold the door and, if the children are slow, close it gently, then more quickly as they learn the skill.
• Why? This game develops speed and attention, preparing children to act effectively in environments requiring rapid movement, such as during an evacuation.

• Small DIY workshop

• Activity: Make a set of simple objects such as makeshift shelters so that children can develop their ability to build, invent and adapt.
• Pourquoi ? Cette activité stimule la créativité, la résolution de problèmes et l'autonomie des enfants. Elle leur permet d'apprendre des compétences pratiques tout en passant un moment ludique et éducatif.

Preparing children to express and manage their emotions involves creative activities that promote introspection and understanding. Art, and drawing in particular, is a powerful way for children to visualize their concerns, tensions, or fears. These activities not only allow them to release their emotions but also create a space for dialogue with adults.

Artistic activities, such as drawing or painting, offer children a safe environment where they can explore their feelings without fear of judgment. By visualizing their emotions or concerns, they learn to gain perspective and better understand their feelings. By incorporating these exercises into their daily lives, artistic expression becomes a habit that helps them develop strategies to manage their tension and anxiety.

Exemples d'activités artistiques

• Draw your fear

•      Activité : Invitez les enfants à dessiner une peur spécifique, comme un monstre ou une situation angoissante. Une fois le dessin terminé, encouragez-les à modifier l'image pour la rendre moins effrayante : ajoutez un chapeau rigolo, dessinez un grand sourire ou transformez la peur en un super-héros maladroit.

•      Pourquoi ? Cette activité aide les enfants à externaliser leurs émotions en les représentant visuellement. Modifier l'image leur permet de reprendre le contrôle sur leurs craintes, notamment ainsi leur anxiété. Grâce à leur créativité, ils apprennent à voir leurs peurs sous un angle plus léger et accessible.

• Draw a stressful situation

• Activity: Invite children to draw a picture of a situation that worries them, such as an upcoming exam or their first day at a new school. Then, ask them to add reassuring elements: a supportive friend, a lucky charm, or a smiling, confident version of themselves.

• Why? This activity helps children express their fears in tangible ways and transform them into more positive experiences. By visualizing reassuring aspects, they can better manage their anxiety and build their self-confidence.

• Créer un « Tableau des Moments Heureux »

• Activity: Invite children to draw or paste pictures of their happy memories or favorite moments. They can decorate the chart with bright colors, stickers, or glitter. Once completed, the chart can be displayed in their room as a constant reminder of the positive things in their lives.
• Why? Reliving happy memories through art reinforces positive emotions and helps children focus on the pleasant aspects of their lives. This activity also fosters an optimistic outlook and develops gratitude.

• Construire un « Pot à Tristesse »

• Activity: Invite children to make and decorate a jar (by painting it or gluing decorations on it). They can write on small pieces of paper what makes them sad or what's on their mind, then slip these pieces of paper into the jar. Afterward, they can choose to read these messages with a trusted adult or symbolically tear them up to free themselves from their sadness.
• Pourquoi ? Mettre des mots sur leurs émotions aide les enfants à comprendre et accepter leur tristesse. Cette activité leur offre un moyen concret de gérer leurs sentiments et de renforcer la connexion émotionnelle avec leurs parents ou tuteurs.

Exemples d'activités sportives

Physical activities are not only fun, but they also play an important role in children's development, especially in a survival situation. They help develop useful skills such as endurance, agility, and strength.

• Course à pied et jeux de course

• Activity: Organizer of a course or relay in a garden or in an open space.
• Why? The course helps improve endurance, speed, and the ability to react quickly when needed. It also allows children to develop their physical and mental resilience.

• Jeux d'agilité et parcours d'obstacles

• Activity: Create an obstacle course with elements like ropes to climb, tunnels to go through, objects to jump over, etc.
• Why? These games offer children the opportunity to improve their agility, coordination, and balance—valuable skills for navigating challenging environments or moving quickly.

• Combat sports suitable for children

• Activity: Introduction to combat sports such as judo or boxing
• Why? These sports teach self-defense, discipline, and stress management. In times of danger, children will know how to defend or protect themselves. They will also learn to control their movements and channel their energy.

2. Compassionate verbal communication

Good communication with a child is essential for their emotional and social development. When their emotions are validated and they feel listened to, it strengthens their sense of security and trust, both in themselves and in those close to them.

Expressing fears or feelings helps children understand and regulate their emotions, which promotes better stress management and greater resilience in the face of challenges. Open-ended questions, such as “What are you afraid of?” encourage children to verbalize their thoughts, developing their language skills and emotional intelligence. Furthermore, caring communication strengthens the parent-child bond, creating a space for dialogue where children know they can share without judgment. This lays a solid foundation for a healthy relationship and their future ability to resolve conflicts and interact positively with others.

Examples of caring verbal communication

• Scary Nightmare

• Situation: A child wakes up crying after dreaming that a monster was chasing him.
• Dialogue: Parent: "You seem upset. Do you want to tell me about your dream?" Child: "I dreamed that a horrible monster was chasing me, and I was very scared!" Parent: "It must be scary to have a dream like that. I understand that you're worried. You know, monsters can't come in here, and we're safe. What could we invent together to make this monster less scary?" Child: "Maybe give it a funny hat!" Parent: "Great idea. What if it also had socks that were always slipping? It wouldn't even be able to catch you!"

• Fear of water when going to the swimming pool

• Situation: The child refuses to go near the water during a swimming lesson.
• Dialogue: Parent: "I see you don't want to go in the water. Can you explain what you're afraid of?" Child: "I'm afraid the water will make me sink." Parent: "It's normal to be a little scared when you're not sure. You know what? We're going to stay together near the edge. We can just dip our feet in first. And if you want, I can show you how I float. Do you feel ready to try that?" Child: "Okay, but not too far!" Parent: "No worries, I'll always stay next to you. Let's take it slow."

• Fall in the park

• Situation: The child falls while playing and begins to cry, visibly upset.
• Dialogue :
  Parent : « Oh non, tu es tombé ! Ça doit faire mal. Où as-tu mal ? » 
  Enfant : « Mon genou… et j'ai eu très peur ! » 
  Parent : « Je comprends, tomber peut faire peur. Et c'est normal de pleurer quand on a un mal. Veux-tu qu'on regarde ensemble pour voir si tout va bien ? » 
  Enfant : « Oui... » 
  Parent : « Regarde, il y a juste une petite égratignure. On va nettoyer ça, et je suis sûr que ton genou sera vite guéri. Tu as été très courageux. Est-ce que tu veux me raconter ce que tu faisais avant de tomber ? » 
  Enfant : « Je courais pour attraper la balle… » 
  ​​Parent : « Et tu courais super vite ! La prochaine fois, on fera attention ensemble, d'accord ? »

3. Practical preparation: Reflexes and skills

• Camping en plein air

• Activity: Plan a camping trip, even in a backyard, to teach children skills like pitching a tent, finding water sources, or starting a supervised fire.
• Pourquoi ? Le camping offre une immersion dans un environnement différent, incitant les enfants à s'adapter à des ressources limitées. Cela leur enseigne à apprécier et utiliser la nature de manière pratique. Ces leçons, combinées à des jeux, permettent d'acquérir des compétences essentielles tout en passant un moment convivial en famille.

• Recognition of edible plants

• Activity: Organize a scavenger hunt focused on identifying safe plants and avoiding potentially dangerous ones.
• Pourquoi ? Cette compétence peut être vitale en cas de rupture de la normalité. La capacité à trouver de la nourriture dans la nature renforce leur autonomie et leur confiance en eux. De plus, cela sensibilise les enfants à l'environnement, les encourage à mieux comprendre et respecter la nature.

• Learning the lateral safety position (PLS)

• Activity: Teach children the basics of PLS through games like "save a stuffed animal" or by copying the actions on a parent.
• Why? PLS can save lives by holding an unconscious person in a secure position. For children, learning this skill gives them a sense of responsibility and competence. They discover that they can play an active role, even in serious situations, which builds their self-confidence.

• Initiation à la cuisine sans électricité

• Activity: Prepare simple meals with basic equipment, such as a stove or fire, and learn to cook dishes such as pasta or rice while respecting fire safety principles.
• Why? These practical skills allow children to actively contribute to their own survival and that of their family in the event of a power outage. They learn to manage the unexpected with simple solutions, while developing their independence and sense of responsibility.



• Creation of an “Adventure Bag”

• Activité : Créer un « Sac d'Aventure » contenant des éléments essentiels adaptés à l'âge de l'enfant pour le responsabiliser tout en lui procurant un sentiment de sécurité.
• Recommended content: • A toy or familiar object
• Pourquoi ? Cet objet, comme une peluche ou un petit carnet de dessins, agit comme une ancre émotionnelle pour rassurer l'enfant et réduire son anxiété dans des situations stressantes. 
  • Une gourde ou une poche à eau
• Pourquoi ? L'hydratation est vitale. En apprenant à utiliser ces outils, les enfants s'habituent à gérer leurs propres besoins. 
  • Une lampe de poche et un sifflet
• Why? These simple objects allow children to signal or find their way in the dark. They strengthen their independence by giving them concrete ways to interact with their environment. • A survival blanket
• Pourquoi ? Légère et efficace, elle aide à garder l'enfant au chaud et constitue une mesure importante dans un environnement hostile. 
  • Un cahier et des crayons
• Why? These tools allow the child to draw, write or note down important information. They help him organize his thoughts, distract himself or record useful data. An additional tip is to include, on the cover of the notebook, the child's essential information (name, first name, address, person to contact in case of need). • A green laser with spare batteries
• Why? This laser can be used to signal its position at night by pointing towards the sky or the stars. In addition, it allows the child to learn how to replace batteries, reinforcing their independence. • A suitable knife (depending on age)
• Why? There are knives with a rounded tip that are safe for children. This tool can allow them to perform small, practical tasks while learning to handle objects safely. • A "bobo" kit
• Contenu recommandé : Pansements, spray désinfectant, bande et compresses (adaptés à l'âge de l'enfant).

Why? This kit is designed to handle minor injuries and teach children the basics of first aid.

2.Pendant la Situation de Crise : Maintenir un Environnement Sécurisant



En période de crise, les enfants ont besoin d’un cadre qui leur apporte stabilité et réconfort, même lorsque le chaos règne à l’extérieur. Assurer un environnement rassurant est essentiel pour préserver leur bien-être émotionnel et leur capacité à faire face à des situations imprévisibles. Les repères construits avant la crise jouent un rôle fondamental, mais il est tout aussi important de renforcer ces bases en instaurant des routines et des stratégies adaptées.

Des recherches montrent que le maintien de routines, même dans les circonstances les plus extrêmes, joue un rôle protecteur pour le développement émotionnel des enfants. La routine permet de structurer la journée en petites étapes familières, offrant des repères récurrents où l’enfant peut se raccrocher dans le tumulte extérieur.

Prenons l’exemple des repas : en planifiant ces moments à heures régulières, vous instaurez une « ancre » dans la journée, un moment où l’enfant peut retrouver un certain rythme. Selon une étude de 2014 publiée dans le Journal of Child Development, les enfants exposés à des routines même dans des contextes de crise affichent une plus grande stabilité émotionnelle et une résilience accrue. Ce sont les repères, aussi simples soient-ils, qui créent une normalité et diminuent le stress.

Douleurs physiques

Headaches or digestive problems are often perceived as isolated illnesses. However, in a crisis context, these symptoms reflect a deep sense of unease. Sensory play, such as blowing soap bubbles or describing what they feel in their bodies, helps reduce these tensions. By focusing their attention on sensory activities, children learn to calm their minds.

Emotional disturbances

Regressive behaviors or anxiety can be addressed through age-appropriate mindfulness techniques. Offering simple exercises like deep breathing while imagining a calming scene (e.g., a beach or garden) helps them refocus their emotions.

Réduction des défenses immunitaires

Une alimentation équilibrée et des routines d’hygiène strictes (même dans des conditions difficiles) limitent les impacts du stress. Introduire des jeux d’apprentissage autour de l’hygiène (comme transformer le lavage des mains en rituel amusant) motive les enfants à adopter ces pratiques de manière naturelle.

Strategies to Maintain Children's Health and Balance

1.    Sensibiliser les enfants aux crises : un équilibre entre vérité et protection

2.    Accompagner les enfants dans la gestion de leurs émotions et le développement de leur résilience

3.    Créer des repères rassurants

4.    Encourager des responsabilités légères

5. Use play to manage stress

6. Draw to ease tensions and explore worries

7. Promote appropriate hygiene

8. Ensure continuity in education in times of crisis

9. Encourage Physical Activity to Strengthen Body and Mind

1. Educating children about crises: a balance between truth and protection

In crisis situations, it's essential to approach children sensitively and respect their emotional development. Explanations should be age-appropriate, using playful and visual approaches. Present these events as challenges to overcome and encourage their questions. Tools such as children's books about nature or role-playing games simulating crisis situations can be very effective.

• Aborder les expériences difficiles avec empathie

Lors de crises extrêmes, telles qu'une exfiltration, un tremblement de terre ou un accident, les enfants peuvent être confrontés à des scènes traumatisantes. Dans ce cas, il est crucial de réagir avec calme et empathie. Offrez-leur un espace sécurisé pour exprimer leurs émotions, écoutez-les sans jugement, et expliquez les événements de manière simple. Validez leurs sentiments de tristesse ou de peur tout en les rassurant sur la rareté de ces situations et sur les efforts des adultes pour garantir leur sécurité. Encouragez les questions et apportez un soutien constant pour les aider à traiter cette expérience.

• Develop emotional intelligence

Reconnaître et exprimer ses émotions est une compétence clé en période de crise. Encouragez des activités comme le jeu des « mots des émotions », où l'enfant exprime comment il se envoie après chaque activité (excité, calme, inquiet), ce qui l'aide à identifier et verbaliser ses ressentis. Ces exercices renforcent sa capacité à gérer ses émotions. Intégrez des techniques de respiration pour l'aider à se calmer en cas de stress, renforçant ainsi sa résilience.

• Favoriser la distraction

Playful activities are important refuges during times of crisis. Board games, imaginary stories, or creative activities offer a mental escape while promoting resilience. These distractions allow children to refocus, relax their minds, and remain flexible in the face of events.

• Bâtir une mentalité de résilience

By presenting survival as a positive skill, you help children approach challenges with calm and confidence. Through play, curiosity, and caring communication, you help them become independent and adaptable. The goal is to gently prepare them for the unexpected, showing them that they can always count on your support. Thus, even when faced with unforeseen situations, they will face challenges with serenity and determination, strengthening their self-confidence and inner security.

2. Accompagner les Enfants dans la Gestion de leurs Émotions et le Développement de leur Résilience

Les émotions des enfants, souvent intenses face à l'inconnu, méritent une attention particulière pour les aider à surmonter les moments difficiles. Leur offrir un cadre bienveillant et adapté peut transformer ces défis en opportunités d'apprentissage émotionnel.

• The importance of verbalizing emotions

Les enfants doivent être accompagnés pour identifier et exprimer leurs émotions. Plus ils réussissent à mettre des mots sur ce qu'ils ressentent, mieux ils peuvent gérer leurs émotions dans des situations réelles. Reconnaître leurs sentiments les aider à comprendre ce qu'ils vivent et à trouver des stratégies pour apaiser leurs peurs ou angoisses.

• Breathing techniques to relieve stress

Teaching simple techniques like deep breathing is crucial for helping children calm down when they feel overwhelmed by stress. These exercises provide them with immediate tools to regain their composure and gain perspective when faced with strong emotions. Regular practice strengthens their ability to manage emotional reactions and gives them confidence to face difficult times.

• The role of play in stress management

Play is a powerful tool for calming and refocusing children during crises. Whether through board games, imaginary stories, or creative activities, these moments help divert their attention from the disruptions while boosting their resilience. Play provides a space for relaxation and helps develop flexibility and adaptability.

• Cultiver une mentalité de résilience

Familiariser les enfants avec les notions de survie, d'adaptabilité et de résilience comme des compétences positives est essentielle. En cultivant cette mentalité, vous leur donnez les outils nécessaires pour aborder l'inconnu avec calme et confiance. Cette transmission doit être douce, sans engendrer de peur, en leur offrant une vision constructive de la vie.

3. Create Reassuring Landmarks

In the face of instability, establishing anchors helps children feel secure. An environment where they find a sense of stability can strengthen their emotional confidence, even in the midst of unforeseen events.

• Maintain simple routines: regular times at fixed times

• Activity: Set regular times for key daily activities, such as sharing meals, telling a bedtime story, or dedicating specific time to play. For example, establishing a daily family dinner, even a modest one, can provide a reassuring framework.
• Why? Routines give children clear reference points in unstable contexts. They reduce their anxiety by structuring their day in a predictable way. Psychology has proven that this continuity provides a sense of control and security, essential in an uncertain environment.

• Introduce emotional rituals: moments of tenderness and connection

• Activity: Create moments of connection and affection, such as group hugs, soothing conversations before bed, or simple family games. These warm gestures strengthen the parent-child bond.
• Why? Children acutely perceive adults' emotions. Offering them these emotional rituals reassures them and reminds them that they can rely on a loving and stable environment. This strengthens their emotional resilience in the face of challenges.

• Create a symbolic refuge: a family treasure box

• Activity: Prepare a box with the children containing familiar objects (family photo, comforter, favorite drawing). This box, accessible at all times, becomes a tangible source of comfort.
• Why? Familiar objects help children maintain psychological continuity by providing reassuring anchors in a changing environment. They promote emotional stability and calm.

• Establish fun rituals: daily bubbles of joy

• Activity: Incorporate recurring games or activities, such as singing a song when you wake up or doing a riddle before bed. These joyful moments, shared as a family, boost morale.
• Why? Playful rituals create a positive atmosphere and help children manage stress. These simple practices foster a climate of emotional security, essential for supporting children through periods of instability.

4. Encourage Light Responsibility

Donner un rôle actif aux enfants dans les moments délicats leur permet de canaliser leur énergie et de se sentir valorisés. Ce sentiment d'implication renforce leur assurance et leur capacité d'adaptation.

• Assign simple tasks

• Activity: Give children age-appropriate responsibilities, such as monitoring drinking water, holding a flashlight while traveling, or making sure everyone has a blanket. These small tasks allow them to play an active role and give them a clear goal while valuing their contribution.
• Why? Responsibilities, even light ones, give children a sense of purpose and competence. Staying involved makes them feel valued and keeps their minds focused, which helps reduce stress. This shows them that they have a role to play, even in difficult circumstances, which boosts their self-esteem.

• Involve children in group activities

• Activity: Organizing group activities, such as sorting supplies or helping build a shelter, transforms a potentially anxiety-provoking situation into a collaborative and positive experience. These shared tasks strengthen team spirit and create a sense of being part of a shared effort.
• Pourquoi ? En travaillant ensemble, les enfants se sentent intégrés à un groupe solidaire, ce qui réduit leur sentiment d’isolement ou d’impuissance. Ces moments partagés favorisent leur apprentissage du travail d’équipe tout en renforçant leur sentiment d’appartenance et de sécurité au sein de la famille.

5. Utiliser le Jeu pour Gérer le Stress

In destabilizing contexts, children, deprived of their bearings, often repress their emotions, which can lead to chronic symptoms or sleep disturbances. In this context, the role of parents is essential to prevent the effects of stress and minimize the associated risks. Play, far from being limited to distractions, is a powerful preventative tool. It offers children a space for expression and emotional release, while supporting their physical well-being.

These activities create a psychological safety net during times of crisis, allowing children to refocus. By engaging their attention, creativity, and positive emotions, they emphasize adaptation and strengthen resilience. Beyond the complexity of the games, it's the quality of the interactions and the caring intention that makes all the difference.

• Imagination and story games

• Activity: Create a story in a group, where each person adds a sentence to build an adventure; play the game “Guess who I am” by embodying characters.
• Pourquoi ? Les jeux d'imagination offrent aux enfants un espace pour exprimer leurs émotions à travers des personnages fictifs. Cela leur permet d'explorer leurs peurs et de réinventer une réalité où ils se sentent en contrôle. Ces jeux encouragent aussi la flexibilité mentale et l'optimisme en leur permettant d’envisager des enjeux positifs.

• Sensory and mindfulness games

• Activité : Proposer des exercices de respiration ou le jeu des cinq sens, par exemple inviter un enfant à observer son environnement et à décrire ce qu'il voit, entend, sent, touche ou goûte à l'instant présent. Ces activités recentrent son attention sur l’ici et le maintenant, loin des pensées anxiogènes.
• Why? These activities encourage mindfulness, a scientifically proven method for reducing anxiety. By focusing on immediate sensations, children learn to calm their minds and manage their emotions independently.

• Observation games

• Activity: Organize a scavenger hunt or object recognition games. For example, ask children to look for specific objects in the room or spot shapes in their environment.
• Pourquoi ? Ces jeux stimulent la curiosité et la capacité de concentration des enfants tout en ajoutant une touche de plaisir à un contexte difficile. Ils encouragent également le développement de compétences d'observation et d'analyse, utiles dans de nombreuses situations.

• Jeux de construction et d'artisanat

• Activité : Construire une cabane de fortune avec des couvertures et des coussins, fabriquer des objets avec des matériaux de récupération, ou dessiner et peindre ensemble.
• Pourquoi ? Créer ou construire est apaisant et structurant pour l'enfant. Cela lui permet de donner vie à quelque chose de concret, renforçant ainsi son sentiment de maîtrise et de fierté. Des études en psychologie montrent que l’artisanat et la créativité diminuent le stress en canalisant les émotions dans une activité productive, tout en favorisant la concentration et l’estime de soi.

• Cooperative thinking and memory games

• Activity: Play “Chinese whispers” to invent fun phrases; organize memory challenges, such as remembering a series of objects; or practice role-playing games in teams.
• Pourquoi ? Ces jeux renforcent l’esprit d’équipe et la coopération, essentiels dans une situation où la famille doit rester soudée. Ils encouragent aussi la patience et l’entraide, des qualités fondamentales pour naviguer ensemble dans une situation incertaine.

• Simple outdoor games

• Activity: Play “1, 2, 3 sun”, hide-and-seek, or racing or agility games.
• Why? Outdoor physical play allows children to release pent-up energy and reduce stress levels. Movement stimulates the release of feel-good neurotransmitters (like endorphins) and promotes better sleep, essential for children facing uncertain times.

• Jeux de devinettes et quiz familiaux

• Activité : Organiser des devinettes sur des thèmes comme « les animaux », « les métiers », ou poser des questions sur la famille et des souvenirs partagés.
• Why? Riddles stimulate the brain in a fun way and distract from worries. They encourage interaction and allow for the sharing of reassuring memories, reinforcing a sense of continuity and stability within the family.

• “Superpower” story games

• Activity: Imagine that each family member has a “superpower” to deal with a situation; invite the child to draw or describe their own power and explain how they would use it to protect their family.
• Pourquoi ? Ce jeu stimule la créativité et transforme un sentiment d’impuissance en force. Il aide l’enfant à exprimer ses peurs de façon symbolique tout en explorant des solutions imaginaires pour les surmonter. Cela développe une attitude résiliente et renforce sa confiance en ses propres ressources.

6. Dessiner pour Apaiser les Tensions et Explorer les Inquiétudes

L'art est un langage universel pour exprimer ce qui ne peut être mis en mots. À travers des gestes créatifs, les enfants trouvent un moyen d'apaiser leurs craintes et de transformer leurs émotions en force intérieure.

Examples of expression through drawing

• Draw the fear of water during a flood

• Activity: Invite children to draw a flood scene where they feel frightened by the rising water. Then, ask them to transform this scene by adding reassuring elements, such as a rescue by a helicopter or a boat, or characters showing them gestures of support. • Why? This activity allows children to express their fear of natural events, while giving them the opportunity to regain control over the situation through drawing. They thus learn to visualize danger management and reduce their anxiety in the face of a potentially traumatic situation.

• Dessiner une scène d'incendie

• Activity: Have children draw a scene of a fire in a house or forest, representing panic and fear. Encourage them to add reassuring elements, such as firefighters arriving or a safe exit, to show how the situation could be resolved.

•      Pourquoi ? Cette activité permet de réduire la peur des incendies en aidant les enfants à se concentrer sur des enjeux de secours et à imaginer des solutions positives. Cela leur donne des repères pour se sentir plus en sécurité en cas de danger.

• Dessiner l'angoisse d'un abri pendant une tempête

•      Activité : Invitez les enfants à dessiner une situation où ils se réfugient dans un abri pendant une tempête violente. Ils peuvent représenter la peur initiale, puis ajouter des éléments réconfortants comme des lampes allumées, des amis ou des membres de la famille à leurs côtés.

•      Pourquoi ? Cela aide les enfants à canaliser leur anxiété et à imaginer un espace sûr pendant les événements menaçants. Cela renforce l'idée de résilience et de solidarité face aux situations stressantes.

Drawing offers a unique way for children to express emotions that are difficult to verbalize, such as fear, anger, or sadness. By creating a picture of their feelings, they can explore them in a less threatening way, observe them, and gain greater control over them. Drawing their fears or frustrations also allows them to change or reconfigure whatever is bothering them, giving them a sense of control.

This activity creates a safe space where they can express themselves without judgment, facilitating communication with adults. Additionally, the creative process releases internal tension, reduces stress, builds self-esteem, and helps them better understand their emotions.

7. Hygiene and Children

In times of crisis, children's hygiene becomes a priority. Because young children's immune systems are still developing, they are particularly vulnerable to infections, especially in unsanitary environments. Their natural tendency to put their hands or objects in their mouths increases the risk of contamination. Poor hygiene can lead to serious complications, such as acute diarrhea, a major cause of child mortality in crisis situations.

• Maintenir une hygiène de base avec des ressources limitées

Même dans des contextes difficiles, des gestes simples, tels que se laver les mains et nettoyer les zones sensibles du corps, restent essentiels. En l’absence d’eau courante, des lingettes humides ou des tissus propres imbibés d’eau bouillie peuvent constituer des solutions efficaces.

• Protect yourself against parasites and infections

Protecting children from external parasites, such as lice and fleas, is crucial. Regularly monitoring their personal and hair hygiene, as well as frequently cleaning toys, helps limit the spread of pathogens.

• Create a healthy and safe environment

Éviter les environnements insalubres est indispensable pour prévenir les infections et protéger la santé des enfants. Cela implique de garantir des conditions sanitaires minimales et d’agir rapidement pour limiter les risques de complications.

8. Ensuring Continuity in Education in Times of Crisis

In times of crisis, providing educational continuity to children is essential for their emotional well-being and intellectual development. Alternative pedagogies, such as Montessori, Steiner (Waldorf), and Freinet, are particularly suited to these contexts thanks to their flexibility, promotion of autonomy, and child-centered approach. These methods provide powerful tools to help children overcome difficult times while strengthening their resilience and self-confidence.

Une Éducation qui Renforce la Résilience 
Les pédagogies alternatives offrent une approche précieuse pour éduquer les enfants en temps de crise. En mettant l'accent sur l'autonomie, la créativité et la coopération, elles leur fournissent les ressources nécessaires pour grandir, apprendre et s'adapter, même dans l'incertitude. En adoptant ces méthodes, nous préparons les enfants à faire face aux défis avec calme, confiance et solidarité, tout en soutenant leur épanouissement dans un monde en perpétuelle évolution.

• The Foundations of Alternative Pedagogies

1. Montessori pedagogy: autonomy and a structured environment. Montessori focuses on autonomy and self-discipline. In times of crisis, maintaining simple routines and organizing the environment with accessible materials (everyday objects) provides children with concrete benchmarks. By allowing them to choose their activities and focus on practical tasks, this approach strengthens their sense of control and independence, two essential elements for their resilience.

2. Steiner Education: Creativity and Imagination in the Service of ResilienceThe Steiner method values creativity as a means of expression and escape. Encouraging artistic activities such as drawing, music, or theater helps children transform their emotions and manage their anxiety. Storytelling, role-playing, and therapeutic stories allow children to approach difficult situations in a visual way, stimulating their imagination and providing a safe space to process their feelings.

3. Freinet pedagogy: experiential learning and cooperation Freinet emphasizes concrete and collaborative learning. Organizing projects such as gardening, crafts, or storytelling helps children give meaning to their actions while strengthening their sense of belonging. Group work fosters solidarity and mutual aid, crucial values in times of crisis. Creating journals, drawings, or personal stories also allows children to express and share their experiences with their peers.

• Complementary Methods and Benefits

1. Centrage sur l'enfant et apprentissage autonome
Les pédagogies alternatives permettent aux enfants de progresser à leur rythme en minimisant leurs activités et en fixant leurs propres objectifs. Cette autonomie réduit leur anxiété et les aide à se sentir en sécurité, en leur offrant un cadre où ils restent maîtres de leur apprentissage, même en contexte instable.

2. Adaptability and Flexibility: The practical and creative activities offered by Montessori, Steiner, and Freinet can be easily adapted to available resources. Whether in an improvised space or outdoors, these methods allow for continued education with simple tools while remaining relevant and effective.

3. Emotional education and resilience

Integrating emotions into learning, particularly through the arts and collaborative projects, helps children identify and express their feelings. These social-emotional skills are crucial for navigating the challenges of a crisis and building lasting resilience.

4. Fostering Creativity and Practicality Imagination becomes a refuge, and practical learning gives concrete meaning to children's efforts. These two dimensions, present in all alternative pedagogies, identify them to transform their worries into constructive and meaningful actions.

5. Solidarité et éducation communautaire
Les projets de groupe renforcent le sentiment d'appartenance et valorisent l'entraide. Ces activités collectives enseignent aux enfants qu'ils ne sont pas seuls et qu'ils peuvent compter sur les autres, favorisant ainsi un esprit de solidarité.

• Creation of a Framework Conducive to Learning in Times of Crisis

Pour mettre en œuvre ces approches, il est crucial de créer un environnement accueillant, même avec des moyens limités. Un espace organisé, des routines structurées et des activités régulières comme la lecture, les ateliers créatifs ou les tâches pratiques assurent un cadre rassurant. Les parents et éducateurs jouent ici un rôle central en guidant les enfants avec bienveillance, en écoutant leurs besoins et en soutenant l'expression de leurs émotions.

9. Encourager l'Activité Physique pour Renforcer le Corps et l'Esprit

During times of crisis, physical activity plays a vital role in maintaining children's mental, physical, and immune health. Regular exercise releases endorphins, the feel-good hormones that help reduce stress and stabilize mood. Furthermore, exercise boosts the immune system and helps maintain good physical condition, strengthening resilience in the face of challenges.

Les bienfaits de l'activité physique

1. Réduction du stress et de l'anxiété : La pratique d'une activité physique stimule la production d'endorphines, des neurotransmetteurs qui diminuent la perception du stress et procure une sensation de bonheur et de détente. Selon une étude publiée dans The Journal of Clinical Psychiatry , 30 minutes d'exercice modéré suffisent pour diminuer significativement les symptômes d'anxiété.

2. Improved Mood: Physical activity also increases serotonin and dopamine levels, which help regulate mood and boost self-confidence, essential for dealing with unexpected situations.

3. Strengthens the immune system: Moderate activity improves the circulation of immune cells in the body, helping fight infections. Research from the University of California shows that regular exercise reduces the risk of respiratory infections by 29%.

4. Creating a sense of normalcy: Incorporating physical movement into daily routines provides positive distraction and reassuring cues, which decreases the production of cortisol, the stress hormone.

Examples of adapted physical activities:

Stretching and Relaxation Moves: Yoga Breaks Made Easy

• Activité : Apprenez aux enfants quelques postures de yoga simples, comme l'arbre ou le papillon. Transformez ces exercices en un jeu en leur donnant des noms d'animaux ou d'objets amusants.
• Why? Yoga stimulates the parasympathetic nervous system, promoting a state of relaxation, particularly cortisol. A meta-analysis published in Frontiers in Psychology reveals that practicing yoga reduces anxiety and improves children's emotional self-regulation skills.

Danses spontanées : bouger au rythme de la musique

• Activity: Put on some upbeat music and let the children come up with their own dance moves. You can also organize mini dance competitions or group choreographies.
• Pourquoi ? La danse stimule la sécrétion de neurotransmetteurs tels que la dopamine et les endorphines, qui améliorent l'humeur. Une étude de l'Université de Derby montre que la danse est particulièrement efficace pour réduire les symptômes de dépression efficacement et favoriser une meilleure estime de soi.
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Exercices énergétiques en intérieur : sauts et défis chronométrés

• Activity: Organize a jump rope session or challenges like "how many times can you jump in 30 seconds?" These mini-challenges keep kids energized and motivated.
• Why? Cardiovascular exercise increases blood circulation and releases endorphins, including stress, while strengthening the heart and lungs. A study in the British Journal of Sports Medicine found that 15 minutes of high-intensity exercise improved cardiovascular function and reduced cortisol levels.

3. After the Crisis Situation: Promoting Resilience

Once the crisis has passed, it becomes essential to support children in their recovery process. Although the situation appears to be returning to normal, the emotional and psychological repercussions can persist. Helping children understand what they have experienced, talk about it freely, and regain their bearings is a key step in strengthening their resilience and long-term well-being. Providing appropriate and caring support is therefore essential.

Méthodologie de Résilience

1. Return to the Event

• Value their courage and resilience

It's important to acknowledge and celebrate the efforts and strength children have shown during the crisis. This encouragement builds their self-confidence. It allows them to see the crisis as a challenge they have successfully overcome. Use phrases like:

·        « Tu as été très fort et courageux. »

· “I am proud of you for everything you have done.”

Exemple : un enfant qui a aidé à ranger la maison après une tempête peut être félicité pour sa contribution :

·        « Grâce à toi, on a réussi à tout remettre en ordre beaucoup plus vite. »

·        « Tu as vraiment aidé la famille. »

Pourquoi ?
Les enfants associent souvent leurs réussites aux messages qu’ils reçoivent des adultes. En valorisant leur courage, vous les aidez à construire une image positive d’eux-mêmes. Cette perception les éloigne du traumatisme et transforme l’épreuve en une occasion de développement personnel.

• Explain in simple words what happened

Après une crise, les enfants ressentent le besoin de comprendre ce qui s’est produit. Utilisez un langage clair et adapté à leur âge pour expliquer les événements et les raisons des décisions prises comme :

·        « Une grosse tempête a abîmé beaucoup de choses, mais nous avons tout fait pour rester en sécurité. »

Exemple : si un incendie a entraîné une évacuation, expliquez :

·        « Nous avons quitté la maison pour aller dans un endroit sûr, et les pompiers ont fait un super travail pour tout contrôler. »

Why? Understanding events helps reduce anxiety about the unknown. It provides a logical framework for interpreting what happened, thus avoiding misinterpretations or irrational fears.

•      Référencer l’événement comme une épreuve surmontée ensemble

Framing the crisis as a challenge the whole family faced together helps children feel connected and supported. Create positive narratives around their role and actions during the crisis. You could say:

·        « On a réussi à surmonter cette épreuve grâce à notre entraide. »

Example: If after a flood, a child helped calm a little brother or sister, highlight this:

· “You were an amazing big brother/sister, you really reassured him.”

Pourquoi ?
Les enfants apprennent à voir la crise comme une partie de leur histoire personnelle et familiale, plutôt qu’un événement effrayant et isolé. Cela renforce leur sentiment d’appartenance et leur capacité à affronter d’autres défis.

2. Strengthen Emotional Communication

• Invite children to express their emotions

Encouragez vos enfants à parler de ce qu’ils ont ressenti pendant et après la crise. Posez des questions ouvertes comme :

·        « Qu’as-tu ressenti pendant la tempête ? »

· “How are you feeling now?”

Reassure them by validating their emotions, even the most negative ones:

· “It’s normal to be scared, everyone feels that way sometimes.”

Example: After a prolonged power outage, a child who admits to having cried can be reassured, tell him:

·        « Pleurer, c’est une façon pour le corps de relâcher ce qu’il ressent. Tu as fait ce qu’il fallait pour te sentir mieux. »

Why? Emotional expression is a key step in addressing trauma. By naming their emotions, children learn to understand and manage them. It also helps them release internal tension and reduce anxiety.

•      Encourager l’expression par des activités créatives

Proposez des activités comme le dessin, l’écriture ou le jeu pour permettre aux enfants d’exprimer leurs sentiments de manière indirecte. Demandez-leur :

·        « Peux-tu dessiner un moment que tu as trouvé effrayant ? »

Example: After a storm, a child draws his house, suggest he finds a symbol of protection to symbolize the security found.

· “Imagine a hero who represents your strength.”

Pourquoi ?
Ces activités permettent aux enfants d’explorer leurs émotions sans recourir aux mots, ce qui est utile pour ceux qui ont du mal à verbaliser leurs sentiments. Elles offrent également un moyen de transformer leurs craintes en quelque chose de tangible et contrôlable.

3. Introduce Return to Normalcy Activities

•      Reprendre des routines pré-crise progressivement

After a crisis, reestablishing familiar routines—such as mealtimes, playtimes, and bedtime rituals—is essential. Do this gradually to avoid overwhelming children, especially if they are still unsettled.

Example: Reintroducing bedtime stories or cuddles before bed can quickly recreate a sense of normalcy.

Why? Routines reassure children by recreating a predictable structure. They help them regain a sense of security and stability, which is fundamental to their emotional well-being.

• Maintain moments of play and exploration

Intégrez des jeux et des activités exploratoires qui permettent aux enfants de se reconnecter à leur environnement. Jouer à des jeux de rôle où ils recréent des situations imaginaires positives peut aussi les aider à réinterpréter la crise sous un jour plus favorable.

Example: Organize a role-playing game where the child plays the hero who helps his family weather a storm, thus reinforcing a sense of mastery.

Why? Play is a powerful tool for fostering resilience. It allows children to process their emotions while having fun. These moments of constructive escape strengthen their ability to bounce back and rebuild.

Taking the time to reflect on events, encouraging open communication, and recreating a structured framework allows children not only to overcome the effects of the crisis, but also to learn positive lessons from it. Balance lies in active listening, acknowledging their emotions, and gradually reintegrating them into a stable daily life. As a guide and pillar of strength, you have the power to transform these challenges into opportunities for personal growth for your children, helping them emerge from this experience stronger and more confident.

Gérer les enfants en situation de crise est un défi complexe, et je le sais bien. Leur bien-être est votre priorité, mais je comprends combien il peut être difficile de concilier cela avec vos propres émotions et les nombreuses décisions à prendre. Ce qu’il faut retenir, c’est que plus vous êtes préparé, et plus vos enfants le sont, mieux vous pourrez affronter les imprévus. La préparation, même imparfaite, réduit le stress et vous permet de réagir efficacement dans les moments critiques.

The strategies proposed aren't absolute rules. In the midst of a crisis, you won't be able to apply everything perfectly, and that's normal. The important thing is that you now have tools, concrete ideas, and benchmarks you can rely on to cope with serenity and best protect your children.

As a parent, you are their rock. Through every small effort—whether it's creating routines, building resilience, or simply being a reassuring presence—you build a secure environment for them.